Monday, 11 August 2014

Loving Life in the Moment

Relinquish the result.
  • One of the greatest progressions to make is to relinquish attempting to control the result of each circumstance. Understand that the totally just thing you can control is your response to a circumstance, you seldom can control the circumstances itself. The requirement for control is established in dread, and in case you're acting from a position of alarm, you are by no means adoring life.
  • Solicit yourself what you're apprehensive from on the off chance that you give up the need to control the conclusion of a given circumstance. As a sample, if your feel your better half overlooking the wine for an enormous night is going to demolish the nighttime, address that suspicion. Will it really be destroyed? It may be the case that your disposition will really destroy the night, as opposed to the absence of wine.
  • For instance: in case you're simply setting out on a relationship, its fine to arrange ahead for where you'd like to see the relationship go, as long as you stay open to the routes in which it won't be anything like how you arranged.
  • An alternate illustration is whether you have a wellbeing issue. As opposed to holding a consistent outrage about the circumstances, recall that you can't control the wellbeing issue, you can just control how you act about the circumstances.

Be adaptable.
  • This doesn't imply that you can wind your body into a pretzel shape, this implies that you are interested in distinctive potential outcomes. It ties in with relinquishing the need to control the conclusion, in light of the fact that on the off chance that you aren't acting in an adaptable way towards life, you're going to come up against something that will break you.
  • Question your musings and words. Take a gander at what you're supposing and colloquialism. You'll begin to perceive the spots where you're most inflexible in your reasoning and your activities and you'll have the capacity to take a shot at softening those territories.
  • Switch up your consistent schedule. They don't need to be enormous progressions, however doing something a bit distinctive every day keeps you on your toes, regardless of the fact that its something as basic as taking an alternate course to work every day, or ceasing at an alternate bistro sporadically.

Face your issues.
  • Everybody has issues, enormous or little. Overlooking or keeping away from them just makes them get greater and greater until they've assumed control over your life. You don't need to face all of them immediately, however managing things as they emerge, instead of holding up, will help your long haul capacity to love life, on the grounds that issues won't be developing.
  • Concentrate on discovering an answer for the issue, instead of concentrating on the issue itself. Case in point, in case you're having an issue with your flat mate, as opposed to centering the issue itself and developing it, concentrate on what both of you have to do to make the living circumstance work.
  • Ask yourself whether an issue is really an issue. Frequently you incorporate something up with an issue without acknowledging why. For instance: if making phone calls makes you on edge, ask yourself for what reason that is. Driving yourself to think of a purpose behind something that appears illogical can really help you discharge the uneasiness around what you feel is an issue.

Friday, 22 February 2013

Love styles

Love styles are modus operandi of how people love, originally developed by John Lee (1973, 1988). He identified six basic love styles also known as "colours" of love that people use in their interpersonal relationships:

Eros     – a passionate physical and emotional love based on aesthetic enjoyment; stereotype of romantic love

Ludus  – a love that is played as a game or sport; conquest; may have multiple partners at once
Storge – an affectionate love that slowly develops from friendship, based on similarity Pragma– love that is driven by the head, not the heart; undemonstrative

Mania – obsessive love; experience great emotional highs and lows; very possessive and often jealous lovers

Agape – selfless altruistic love

Clyde Hendrick and Susan Hendrick of Texas Tech University expanded on this theory in the mid-1980s with their extensive research on what they called "love styles". They have found that men tend to be more ludic, whereas women tend to be storgic and pragmatic. Mania is often the first love style teenagers display. Relationships based on similar love styles were found to last longer. People often look for people with the same love style as themselves for a relationship. These styles are akin to the Greek types of love.

Wednesday, 1 August 2012

Life & Style

Life & Style is an American syndicated talk show that was geared toward young adult females. It was produced and distributed by Sony Pictures Television and lasted only one season, from September 2004 to March 2005. It is unrelated to the celebrity magazine of the same name, also launched in 2004.

Monday, 22 August 2011


Centranthus is a flowering plant genus comprising herbs and subshrubs native to Southern Europe. It is in the Caprifoliaceae family. There are about twelve species in the genus. Some Centranthus are known as introduced species in other parts of the world, including Centranthus ruber in the western United States and Centranthus macrosiphon in Western Australia.